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Asking for Help When Help Feels Few and Far Between
At a time when I feel less fearful of healthy confrontation, others seem to fear it from me — a sign of a deeply dysfunctional society
Christa M
Currently a n00b civil servant, I've previously authored journalism, books, research, and marketing content. I'm a neurodivergent sometime swimmer / hiker / paddler, mom to adult sons, raccoon stan, and probably other epithets I’m not thinking of.
Asking for Help When You Can’t Pull Back Any Longer
Sharing from survival mode introduces power differentials that can feel difficult to get out from under, but which are, ultimately, temporary.
community
Need Help? Look for the Strings Attached (Before They Strangle You)
Receiving assistance shouldn’t stand on the back of your submission to authority
community
Do You Really Want People to “Just Ask for Help”?
When resources are scarce and getting scarcer, ‘help’ can be conflated with ‘power' — and people need community, not rescuers
community
How to Learn to Trust, Even When You're Afraid
Because the risk of not trusting is greater than the risk of trusting the wrong people
community
Reaching Out for Help When Everything Tells You to Pull Back
Why should I ask? Why should anyone answer? I am coming to this first post still recovering from a pretty bad trigger. My son spoke to me in a way that called to mind many less fortunate interactions with men over the years. I felt criticized and judged as less
adhd
Abusers Hide Behind the Veneer of Respectability
So that you will trust them and provide plausible deniability when they’re found out
adhd
Confessions of a Former Manic Pixie Pick-Me
How my survival response to rejection pitted me against other women
adhd
How Undiagnosed ADHD Made Me Vulnerable to Predatory Grooming
Or, how intersectional feminism is crucial to child protection
community
The Future of Us: Can We Learn to Connect Like Forest Fungi?
Reclaiming our innate connections to ourselves and each other
adhd
An ADHD Recovering People-Pleaser Negotiates Chores With Her Teens
Learning how to make our own way within community and contribution
living-wild
Lessons in Coping With Scarcity and Uncertainty
What the book does show is the need to help each other out when we’re in trouble. Roxy, Rufus, and Renae don’t just befriend the other raccoons — they help another mom and kit out of a bad jam. In turn, they’re helped out of their own jams.